Thank you for so clearly articulating what we are in control of... ourselves and our own recovery. I fully experienced all you describe in this post and never for one moment thought I had a problem / addiction too. I have learned so much in the last 12 months thanks to this forum and my f2f Al-Anon group and working the steps with my sponsor. Do I have relapses, sure, and often but most of the time they're not that big and I can get back on the path to recovery. Thank you again. I love this forum and all of its members, organizers, and volunteers to who make it possible.
The higher the expectations, the lower the serenity. I try to keep my boundaries high, my expectations low, and my heart open. [/size]