After working my own program of meetings and step work with my sponsor, I began working on ways that I could help my kids better. First, was committing myself to my own recovery program. Secondly, I spoke with my kid's guidance counselors about our current family situation. If anything came up at school, they would already know the background. So far all has been fine.
My kids and I also see a family counselor on a regular basis. Weekly at first, currently about every 6 weeks. My son also participates in their boys group.
Thirdly, my kids attend Narateen, one of the few here in the US. An alternative is Alateen. My kids were resistant at first. But I put my foot down, that it was best. No matter how I got them there. Luckily, it was not having to carry them in kicking & screaming. They got their meeting. While I got my extra meeting in the other room. I allowed myself to "bribe" them....there choice of a fast-food or ice cream place on the way home. My kids are 12 and 10. Sixteen year olds, may look for larger bribes and a little harder to carry
Basically, I just look for whatever resources I could find. 2-1-1 is a great service that can help find resources in the community. They try to keep a lot of no cost or low cost options.
Personally, I think the peer to peer support my kids get from Narateen has been the most beneficial for them. I have seen the largest growth in them since starting back in October. For myself, the tools of Nar-Anon and a family counselor have helped me cope with the way my kids were coping.