I understand exactly how you feel. It can get frustrating feeling like I am the only one who has to work. I work full-time as a high school teacher in a huge public school. Then I full-time single parent my almost eight year old daughter.
Her dad, my recent qualifier hasn't worked in over four years. He lives with his parents rent-free and comes and goes as he pleases. He has been collecting unemployment for the past few years (fraudulantly, but still!) and uses this money to go on trips, camping, buying new expensive shoes, eating out on the regular...everything he wants.
All that while I care for our girl. Yes, it gets me angry and frustrated. But I try to keep the focus that this is just the way it is for today. No one knows what tomorrow brings. And I am a firm believer in karma...that what we sew today..we will reap in the future.
Does sound like your daughter is going through a phase. Sounds like this is a bit of the "honeymoon" stage for both of them. Soon enough, reality will set in and things may look very different.
Thankfully, our HP only gives us one day at a time...and we can only see one day at a time. We can't see the bigger picture, so it can be disheartening. I have been trying to just keep my eyes on my own road, my hands on the wheel of my own vehicle...and to just keep striving for peace on my journey--no matter what others do.
Sending you love and hugs. Hope you found joy in planting your pansies.
"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."
(Dr. MLK, Jr.)