Is he relapsing if..........

[Srm36]

My AH is only two weeks out of a detox program.... He's been taking Norco etc for well over five yrs (I'm sure there's more I do not know about as he recently admitted to "one weekend" of cocaine use too and has lied sooooo much) They put him om methadone to detox and this week has been awful for him. He's sweating profusely, anxiety ridden, quick to snap, achy, not sleeping etc. He thinks he's detoxing from the methadone now? Does that happen? He drank this weekend at a party and took a hit of pot last night "to sleep" . His addiction is opiates/pills but it seems like he's headed for a relapse. I'm so new to this Im not sure what to say or do or even if Im supposed to say or do anything? I suggested a meeting and hot yoga (he loves) but then thought I prob shouldn't have? I feel like such a selfish jerk too cuz all this just takes me right back into my own head and I get all depressed and sedentary doing the whole"I just need some space from all this but can't get it" stuff again making it about me and not him. Ugh..... Why is it so hard?

[nodbates]

Methadone withdrawals can be brutal. I just watched a documentary about methadone. There was a Guy trying to quit methadone. They recommend that you drop 1 or 2 mgs. At a time, but he wanted to drop 10. He had to sign a waiver saying it was against medical advice. At 60 mg he began to feel suicidal. Once he got down to 40 mg he was able to check himself into inpatient detox... but he didn't make it through his first attempt. The pain was too much.

Headed for relapse? I can't tell you that... who knows but him... some people drink and smoke pot and are fine... some do nothing and relapse. I would tell my AH about my concerns, but not everyone can talk to their ALO like that. Good luck. ((Hug))

[DianeB]

I don't know about methadone detoxing, and we don't have any
opinion on it.

I do know that my son needs to manage his recovery with his
professionals and his sponsor.

I also know that I need to manage my own recovery....meetings,
sponsor, steps.

So keep coming back...this is a program for you!

Hugs...

[Debness]

He's sweating profusely, anxiety ridden, quick to snap, achy, not sleeping etc.

Good lord, it sounds exactly like menopause! OK, it sounds exactly like MY menopause, except I was/am enjoying hot flashes also.

I think I realize what my husband has gone through now.

I don't mean to be flip, but addicts don't have the corner on going through a crappy physical adjustment. We still deserve to be treated with respect whether they feel icky or not.

making it about me and not him

It is about you! And this program, Nar-Anon, is about you. Don't feel bad for taking care of yourself and making good decisions for yourself. Yourself is all you can control.

I'm glad you're here. I've found a lot of wisdom on this board and in the other rooms of Nar-Anon.

Debbie

[river rock]

This program is for you, not him. His recovery,
or lack of is for him, not you. The one thing I
have learned is, if they are relapsing, or close to
it, I will know soon enough.Alcohol and pot are
drugs too,but thats his thing to deal with. I learned
if I dont take care of me, noone else will. We have
choices too.
Love River rock

[Jac214]

Honestly honey, from experience, if your asking if hes relapsing he probably is.