Struggling With Some Feelings - OT - I think?

[monajean]

Speaking of which....Who is on the moderating team now?

Love, Jeannie

[justdebi]

Jeanie - I am for one. I just joined the team mid-summer of this year. This past month, my appearances on the forum have not been as frequent because of the amount of time I am spending with my parents in Chicago; my sister and I are alternating weeks of balancing work and being here to assist my Mom care for my father. I do however come in at least a couple of times a day to check the concerns/issues forum, delete any spam, and read for my own recovery. I continue a strong communication thru PM's with several members and you are more than welcome to visit with me! Some days Dad sleeps a lot; other days not so much but I can still usually respond within 24 hours. I remain grateful for the service opportunity as I have learned much. Hugs, Debi

[Living and Learning]

I also wonder why there was a need to leave our group. I was only aware of three members who actually left. I think everyone else maybe left but still visit us here.

I know that people grow apart and sometimes need to move on. I have done it myself with various groups and friends but I have also done it kindly and left the possibility of maintaining the connections in the future.

I just don't like the feeling that for some people it seems to be all or nothing. Oh well, this is where the Serenity Prayer works. We can't change anyone's thoughts but our own.

Also is there some way of listing all the moderators for the forum again? I don't have any need to contact anyone but it would be nice to know. Elaine

[Brenda]

I am still sitting on as a moderator.

[CatieS]

This is my first post - [long ago I joined and posted but dropped out and lost all my info so registered new*]
Sad to see that, between the two topics I've checked out today, the posts are about people leaving because of problems, new online forum vs this one, and hurt feelings.
The recent events here are similar to what I see happens with people attending in person meetings. In my area, I see people attending Nar-Anon and Al-Anon meetings clashing because of all sorts of group issues and that prompts people to start another group - and my daughter sees this happens within her NA groups. Sometimes it is only because some people don't like the location/building where the meeting is held, or the time, or often it is personality clashes with other members. Yes, some of these groups compete and have an "our group is better than their" kind of attitude and try to influence newcomers to attend only their group. However, groups with that attitude get and keep very few newcomers, which only hurts that newcomer who's having a hard enough time reaching past their own hurt to trust strangers.
Whatever the reason for the recent exit of members, I hope we can understand that there is always room for another helping source to support all people seeking recovery and that this site is still valuable to long time members and newcomers like me. Best wishes to everyone struggling with this problem and seeking answers.
[*Dropped out a while ago because my daughter was doing well for over 3 years in her recovery, so I stopped thinking I needed any support and saw lots of people giving good support to people here so felt I wasn't needed here. 2 months ago the bottom dropped out of my fantasy and she started using crack again... more on this under the more appropriate topic. Just wanted to explain why I posted here, etc.]

I hope you stick with it and with this group
Thank you