Step One...We admitted we were powerless over the addict---that our lives have become unmanageable.
My goal is to keep my life manageable. Therefore, I have to accept that I am powerless over my ALO's choices. I can only control my own thoughts, actions and reactions without any expection of someone else to change.
I wanted so much for my ALO to be the good husband and father I wanted him to be. But he had to want it for himself. I can only be a good wife and mother that I want to be, so I work a program for my own personally recovery to make my goal a reality.
Sorry to hear your pain. Take care of yourself and your beautiful baby. (((HUGS)))
Formerly, Life In Limbo
"The Serenity Prayer is the handrail to grab until you can work the Steps."