As a Mom and a caregiver--I have been the "go to" person in the family with the answers. I guess I was rather 'puffed up' with my ability to find solutions and having it all under control.
Upon discovering the seriousness of our son's addiction, I continued with my 'puffery" and mistaken sense of control and ability "to work through the situation" with our son. DUH. I was in such denial--which was clouded by my infated ego (a SuperMom complex I guess).
After many years of doing it my way, I was totally humbled and put in my place by my son's sponsor. I didn't have the answers. I didn't have access to the magic potion cure my son. I was about a big of mess as he was. Addiction finally brought me to my knees.
This program--starting at the beginning with Step One--admitting my life was unmanagable was HUGE epithany for me.
Finding a sponsor and working through my workbook--with a lot of prodding, nudging and reality checksfrom my sponsor and some folks here on the Forum--I came to realize, I was a bigger problem than I thought!!
Step Four and the fearless inventory helped me take a hard look at my flaws and character defects.
The Nar-Anon program transfers to all parts of our lives--not just dealing with addiction. While I am not ready to say I am thankful for addiction in my life, I am ready to say I am thankful for what Nar-Anon has taught me about myself and my relationship to others. I understand where you are coming from with a heightened sense of compassion and willingness to be more tolerant of crap that happens in our daily lives.
Thanks for sharing your sou-searching and YOUR epithany!!