I am sure most of us can relate to how helpless you feel. We are not here to give advice, but I only want to say that my son is 37 and just this week he sold a car that the loan was in my name, for $500 and I am left owing $4000 for the car. If I could turn back the clock when he was that age, I would make him pay the consequences for his actions no matter how stiff the punishment. I wish this minute that mine were in jail. At least he might stay clean.
I have put him out of my house, but only after his reporting a debit card as lost that had my grandson's child support money from his mother on it....I was carrying the card and he knew it, yet reported it lost and got a new card and used $1000 for crack ...money that belonged to his own 14 yr old son. The following week he stole a credit card out of my pocket book, and then this week when he ran out of resources, he sold the car.
He is now on the street homeless, with no job, and no money. I realize I enabled him all these years. I didn't want to see him going to jail because I did think of the addiction as an illness. I always picked up the pieces of his latest crack binge, always believing he could stop. All it taught him was whatever he did Mom would take care of it. Fast forward now to all these years later, and Mom is broke, and alone, and even now everybody is texting me wanting to know if my son is okay, and I am probably as sick as he is.
I didn't know about this program, and I still don't have a sponsor, but I can tell you if we don't work a program, and find peace and serinity like these other people on here have, the stress will kill us. Your son is still young, and you have to trust your gut feelings...mine is always right. If i get that feeling that something isn't right with him, it always turns out that I was right. It is amazing how good they get at lying and manipulating.
Take care of yourself first. I hope I am not out of line with this, but I just wish I would have had someone to really tell me, let him pay the consequences. I always thought he was different from the other drug users, because way back then he had not stolen from me, nor had he been disrespectful. Addiction to crack is a progressive disease. I am not sure about some of the other drugs. I remember a family meeting though where they said, "you never get to go back to the first time you use. Each time you relapse will be as bad as the last time, " and that has proven to be true in his case.