Pity Party

[jpaetz3]

I know I should not be, but I am having a pity party for myself. I don't have any money. It is the night before the 4th and my town is having a festival. My teenage children have money to go and enjoy themselves. My husband and I do not. I have posted before about our finances being all messed up from all the spending, charging on cards, rehab etc. I have an interview on Thursday for a 2nd job.

My RAH and I have spent time working on our relationship. It is better. My 9 year is spending a few days with my parents and we can't go do anything together. I know all the free things we could do, but I am too stuck in self-pity right now. I know these are the consequences. I have to be responsible for my part in this mess. I don't like it.

[pabrown]

I'll join you in the pity party but we can't stay here very long.
I have the next 5 days off, no money (from my enabling ways)
and all my friends went to the beach. UGH! I have decided to
be productive with my time off, there are alot of fun things
I can do at no cost and they are things I enjoy. I haven't sat
and watched an entire movie in years! I love getting up in the
morning (no alarm clock) and enjoying a FULL cup of coffee
without having to rush off to get to work. I love setting on my
back porch and watching the birds feed and bathe. I'll grill
some hamburgers on the grill with all the fixins and watch
the fireworks on the TV this year. Its simple but right now
it really sounds good to be able to just enjoy peace for a few
days.

(((Hugs)))
Patsy

[Laura]

For me, sometimes I need to have a pity party. What I found helpful is to put a time limit on it. For example, I would tell myself, my pity party can last all day, if I was particularly down. Or I might just need a shorter pity party. Putting the timeline on it kept me from going really far down and not being able to get back out.

When I allowed myself the opportunity to feel those pity feelings, instead of trying to ignore them, it definately helped.

Laura

[Cheryl]

Do you know the song, "Every party needs a party pooper". It gets sung to the first person who leaves the party? So, how do you feel about being the Party Pooper? You will leave the party laughing!

Hugs, and I hope you feel better.
Cheryl

[Gerilyn]

Everyone deserves time to be sad, be happy, be grouchy, in other words, be human. Just like the sun doesn't always stay out and sometimes it rains, well, that's like us in a way. The trick is to recognize it, sulk with it for a while, and move on. It does stink to know that you are financially in a bind. Money woes are one of the biggest stresses and I have read that it is the number one reason for couples to fight.

Sending you ((hugs)) for today that you will find your way out of your funk,
Gerilyn

[jpaetz3]

Thanks everyone. I feel better today.